Hef’s Fiance Runs Away; Bristol Palin Lost Virginity While Drunk

by FCM

i was tempted to call this piece “this week in rape culture” but unfortunately, these two stories, as noteworthy as they may (or may not) be, dont even begin the scratch the surface of rape culture, or what has happened this week “in rape culture” that we do and do not know about.

first, playboy mogul and liberal-dickwad patriarch hugh hefner’s fiance crystal harris calls off their wedding at the last minute…

…thereby exercising her right to change her mind, to revoke consent and sexual access to her body, and to not marry unless she wants to.  right?  well…apparently, old hef didnt realize he hadnt purchased her outright when he gave her an expensive bauble, and possibly unbeknownst to her, his offering her a coveted gig as playboy cover model that wasnt defaced with a giant red sticker appears to have been conditional upon her marrying him.  talk about a misunderstanding!

as it is, hef has branded his ex as a “runaway” thereby exposing the marriage issue as one akin to slavery and pet ownership…and everyone thinks this is funny (or possibly a publicity stunt?)  when in fact, this “runaway bride” trope is so common in popular culture, isnt it, that it blends seamlessly into it, and no one even realizes (or they dont care) that its a clear reference to rape and sexual slavery.

in other news, bristol palin, daughter of former alaska governor sarah palin has recently written a memoir wherein she describes how she “lost her virginity” to the father of her baby, levi johnston, on a drunken camping trip.  she says she doesnt even remember what happened, and woke up in her tent alone to hear levi talking about “having sex” with her with his buddies outside the tent.  judging by these snippets of her soon-to-be-released book, bristol isnt explicitly framing this as a rape issue, (and neither is anyone else) but it clearly is one isnt it?

as Us magazine reports, “When she confronted him about their sexual encounter, Johnston, now 21, told Palin what she wanted to hear: they wouldn’t have sex again until they were married.

But, Palin writes, they became intimate again shortly after. When she learned she was pregnant in 2008, Palin was on birth control pills prescribed to treat her cramps; it took eight home pregnancy tests to convince her that she was expecting.

Palin’s parents, to her surprise, were incredibly supportive. They also reminded her to stay focused on the future, particularly her continuing education. Johnston’s reaction was less comforting. ‘Better be a f***ing boy,’ he told her.”

oh, okay!  it was just a “sexual encounter” (that bristol doesnt remember and was probably too drunk to even legally consent to, where legal consent at any rate is an extremely low bar) that was repeated shortly thereafter and ultimately resulted in bristol’s unintended pregnancy at age 17, and Us magazine can talk about all this without ever mentioning the legal, ethical (or of course the feminist) implications of underage girls being plied with alcohol and subjected to PIV-centric sex and rape…and yet that same publication cant say the word “fucking” without bleeping it out.

luckily for levi johnston (and bristol) she actually *did* give birth to a baby boy (and not a girl) so they all lived happily ever after, with levi taking full responsibility for his boy child, because at least it wasnt a girl!11!!  uh, no.  and handmaiden of the patriarchy kathy griffen further diverts the attention from the rape references in bristols book by slamming bristol this week for cosmetic surgery she had two months ago.

and these two news items illustrations of rape culture are just two examples, involving famous people, that the mainstream media saw fit to print, this weekend.  meanwhile, this rape-culture, PIV-centric empornulated horror show continues in real life, for all women, everywhere, unabated.

15 Comments to “Hef’s Fiance Runs Away; Bristol Palin Lost Virginity While Drunk”

  1. Good for her, and for any women who manage to escape Hef’s clutches.

  2. sheila, i am saying that more and more: any woman that does anything to resist the pornified entitlements of misogynist men deserves a round of applause AT LEAST. i am still completely in awe of britney spears shaving her head several years ago…im sorry, but that just smacked of resistance to me, and it was terrific. of course she was hospitalized immediately afterwards as i recall…which is always the danger of resisting isnt it?

    i hope crystal harris and bristol palin both prosper, i really do. i dont know if living well is the best revenge…but its better than the alternative i guess?

  3. From the article, the ex-fiance’s words on breaking up the engatement:

    “”After much deep reflection and thought I have decided to end my engagement with Hef,” she wrote. “I have the utmost respect for Hef and wish him the best going forward. I hope the media will give each of us the privacy we deserve during this time.”

    She’s got more integrity in her little finger than HUgh Heffner will ever have.

  4. What happened to BRitney spears was an utter tragedy. Her brother ( a lawyer) and father seized her assets and savings and refused to allow her access to them until she began conforming again. The courts gave her waste of space ex custody of her two little children. What happened to her… GOD, it was a modern-day witch-hunt. Her father and brother blatantly saw her as nothing but a cash-cow and were worried the gravy train had shrieked to a halt when she rebelled with the head shaving.

  5. yes it was a witch-hunt cherry. that is not an exaggeration at all, and its a terrifying reminder to all of us (and its meant to be) of what happens to women who resist.

    i always liked this from britney (lyrics below):

    Lyrics:
    I’m Miss American Dream since I was 17
    Don’t matter if I step on the scene
    Or sneak away to the Philippines
    They still gon’ put pictures of my derrière in the magazine
    You want a piece of me [x2]

    I’m Miss bad media karma
    Another day, another drama
    Guess I can’t see the harm
    In workin’ and bein’ a mama
    And with a kid on my arm
    I’m still an exceptional earner
    You want a piece of me

    I’m Mrs. “Lifestyles of the rich and famous”
    (you want a piece of me)
    I’m Mrs. “Oh my God that Britney’s Shameless”
    (you want a piece of me)
    I’m Mrs. “Extra! Extra! This just in”
    (you want a piece of me)
    I’m Mrs. “She’s too big, now she’s too thin”
    (you want a piece of me)

    I’m Mrs. “You want a piece of me”
    Tryin’ and pissin’ me off
    Well get in line with the paparazzi
    Who’s flippin’ me off
    Hopin’ I’ll resort to some havoc
    End up settlin’ in court
    Now are you sure you want a piece of me?
    You want a piece of me

    I’m Mrs. “Most likely to get on the TV for strippin’ on the streets”
    When gettin’ the groceries, no, for real …
    Are you kiddin’ me?
    No wonder there’s panic in the industry
    I mean, please

    Do you want a piece of me?

    I’m Mrs. “Lifestyles of the rich and famous”
    (you want a piece of me)
    I’m Mrs. “Oh my God that Britney’s Shameless”
    (you want a piece of me)
    I’m Mrs. “Extras! Extra! This just in”
    (you want a piece of me)
    I’m Mrs. “She’s too big, now she’s too thin”

    (you want a piece of me)

    Ah, oh yeah [x2]

    I’m Miss American Dream since I was 17
    Don’t matter if I step on the scene
    Or sneak away to the Philippines
    They still gon’ put pictures of my derrière in the magazine
    You want a piece of me
    You want a piece, piece of me …

    You want a piece of me

    I’m Mrs. “Lifestyles of the rich and famous”
    (you want a piece of me)
    I’m Mrs. “Oh my God that Britney’s Shameless”
    (you want a piece of me)
    I’m Mrs. “Extras! Extra! This just in”
    (you want a piece of me)
    I’m Mrs. “She’s too big, now she’s too thin”
    (you want a piece of me)

    Piece of me

    You want a piece of me

  6. yes i just posted a britney video….DONT HATE! haha!

  7. Is it that womon themselves no longer have a clear idea about what it means to be raped that enables such ignorant articles to be written about womons experiences with male protagonists?
    Hef is an A rated pimp who can buy and sell just about anything. and the A celebs lurv him, the slimy git. The womon obviously saw him in the cold light of day, vomited and then walked away on the basis that it is easy to stoop down and pick up nothing…she stood tall and walked! But the notion that an adult womon can ‘runaway’ truly does smack of slavery and patriarchal ownership and there is no analysis in either cases mentioned here because any form of feminist theory is always absent from matters in which womon/girls are used and abused in the male-strop media/ society/culture. After all as in the song by Peggy Seeger, “rape, a servants final due”.

  8. Honestly, every time I see the Playboy covers you have posted, I get creeped out. I know that porn today is much worse than Playboy, but it’s just some kind of creepy cultural icon that got accepted everywhere. Hefner is a creepy sleaze, too. Not just as he’s gotten older, he always was.

  9. I actually hesitated before posting the playboy covers here, because they are too empornulated and tend to stink up the place. But I wanted to show you all what hef (or one of his twenty-something liberal dickwad producers or whatever) did to her cover shoot. It’s pretty clear that giving her the cover in the first place was extortion wasn’t it? And that there was a coercive force involved there to control her, as there almost always is when it comes to sex, relationships, and even employment where women are at the mercy of moody, vindictive men.

  10. The visual gave the message of what they did/do in an impactful way that would have been lost in print. In addition, part of the message for me was the degree to which they have infected the culture and for so many decades. For generations, all men had their stash of Playboys hidden from their families. Teen boys, too. Playboy pretended to present “wholesome girls” who were hypersexual. It pretended to honor their aspirations and brains. (Just another version of the virgin-whore meme that turns them on.) In that way, it was the fun-fem stuff (forerunner of today’s fun-fems), with intellectual-misogynist content. The family men could also say that they read it for the content, the pictures were just added spice, not damaging masturbatory aids.

    The other thing that became clear was that Hefner is a fetishist. He has the look of one. Putting his (now runaway) bride on the cover was simply an advertisement for his viriliteee(tm), and of course for the Playboy brand. She walked away, walked her talk. No running there. Good for her!

    Also, the update on Palin is informative. I believe Todd did some beefcake modeling for some magazine. I forget where I saw it. He was on all the talk shows. I never watched him, but heard of it. Pure opportunist, narcissist, entitled prick. Neanderthal.

  11. Todd? The ex governors husband?

  12. No, not Todd, I meant Levi. Brain fart, there.

  13. Interesting magazine cover. Introducing Mrs. Crystal Hefner? Branding his name on her and declaring her property before there was any merit to it? Obviously, Hugh Hefener is a premature ejaculator.

  14. OMG, I’m going to get in trouble at work laughing OUT LOUD at Lucky’s comment!!!!!!

  15. Yes, well said everyone. We need to really support all women who manage to escape female sexual enslavement by the likes of Playboy Hef. This woman had a lot of courage to get out of that mess. And Bristol Palin needs to be supported too. I’ve been battling it out over at liver lips’ place to get the point across that rape laws were written by men, and that if a woman is drunk and a man has PIV with her, this is not consent, it is rape. Amazing how this one point alone could cause so many women to wake up to what men have always been up to. The male ownership on the cover of Playboy is sickening…. that magazine helped start the entire modern porn craze in the US. And how Hef gets lionized by men tells us a lot. Good posting everyone on the Hub… good stuff.

    On the fake lesbian site, well I don’t know what to say, but I’ve never been fooled by these sites because men don’t have a clue about real lesbian culture as I’ve lived it. I can also fact check (no pun there FCM) the herstory of that person… and if they are men, believe me, they can’t fake being lesbians. I think Bev Jo and I have often traded insights on this. Young lesbians are subjected to a pretty sex pozzie horrifying big city lesbian landscape these days. I feel sorry for them, because they don’t want access to authentic lesbian feminism or the women who created this movement. Too bad, not much I can do about it.

%d bloggers like this: