Double-Speak

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Guest Post by Rebecca Mott

I am very sick of the lies and propaganda spread by the those who make the choice to say that prostitution is just sex work. Their double speak is making so ill, I am getting close to the point of wanting to die. 

Their language is the language of the privileged, the language of those who make a profit from the prostituted, the language of those who may do a wee bit of paid sex but just for kicks, the language of distanced academic, and most common the language of punters and pimps.

It is never the language of the daily endurance of the prostituted, never the language of the prostitute who has hate and violence written on her body.

Her voice is made unhearable – it is more than silenced – it is made non-existent.

It is not the language of exited prostituted women who knows and remember that what appears to be a personal violence against them was never personal. How could it be, when every prostitute is just goods to fuck into nothingness.

There is nothing personal about violence done to the prostituted – it just having access to holes, hands and someone to boost the punter’s ego. It not personal the violence that poison the future lives of exited women – but if you call that sex work, it is just a business exchange.

But the biggest double speech that is promoted by claiming prostitution is just sex work – is the push to get all prostitution put indoors, and then by magic, it will be safer and the punters will be gentlemen.

Heck in the sex work language, punters are never called nasty words that are the hearts of most prostituted women – such as johns, scums, bastards, saddoes, or just thinking hate as they paint a happy face.

No the sex work double speak named punters as clients, like that makes it all neat and tidy as these punters make the choice to owned and control the prostitute. A client doesn’t rape, he just pays for some pre-arrange porn fantasy to get perform by the whore. A client doesn’t beat a prostitute up, he is just playing a sadist game. And if a client accidentally kills the prostitute – it more than likely her fault or she doesn’t understand his rules.

In other words for sex work advocates, most violence done to the prostitute is just bad luck or the fault of the prostitute. It is not that the punter by having the right to own another human to fulfill whatever sick porn fantasy he has – does not give a shit what damage he does to the prostitute. Why should he, when she has be made non-human and just something he can fuck close to death.

And why should the profiteers give a damn about the mental, physical and sexual welfare of the prostituted, when the biggest profit is always made by providing sadistic sex. If the prostitute is killed, or is lucky enough to leave – that’s no problem to the sex trade profiteers, coz there are millions of other vulnerable and often naive women and girls who can be molded into being long-term prostitutes.

It is a genocide of the prostituted made invisible by replacing the goods.

That is made invisible by sex work advocates – who are more than happy to promote a jolly face of the sex trade.

The concept that prostitution can be made safer if pushed indoors make no sense on any level.

Where are non-prostituted women safer indoors – doesn’t most child abuse go on inside a home, isn’t most women battered indoors, ain’t most raped inside a building – if that is the reality for non-prostituted, in what universe would the prostituted be safer indoors?

I have been told it must be safer for it is some kind of one-to-one negotiation between the punter and the prostitute, it is a clear-headed business exchange.

I say even if that is true – which for most prostituted women and girls there is little or no communication, just straight down to using her as his personal porn-toy. Even if it is true, it takes nothing away from the punter has full control, and the prostituted is just goods.

In reality, all words of a punter mean nothing if he decide he has the right to be sadist or to rape the prostitute – and he can do that with the full knowledge that is not a crime, and his mess will be cleared away.

Indoors prostitution is all about closing away the public gaze from the ordinary violence and hate that is the sex trade – what is not seen or heard, can become a non-event.

Indoors prostitution give the profiteers/managers/pimps stronger control over the prostituted. It is much easier to manipulate the prostituted, and to give her a dream of empowerment and small degrees of freedom in indoors prostitution – whilst always knowing the prostituted will have no rights to real safety and dignity.

But sex work advocates buy that it is can made safer, at least safe enough to patch up the prostituted and then send then back into danger again. This is named as harm reduction, doing everything to keep the prostituted in enough working order to look good for the punter, and hopefully will smile as well.

Kind of remind me of army hospitals in the First World War, where soldiers were patch up enough to be sent back to almost certain death or mental/ physical mutilation – sent back regardless of the mental damage they were carrying.

That is harm reduction, is just all about keeping a constant flow of prostituted for the punters and increasing the profit.

The main thing about the sex work advocates is that  they spend most of their energy trying to distract from the elephant in the room – that the only reason there is prostitution is because of the mainly male demand to make other humans into sub-humans for their sexual wants and greed.

Tear away that demand – make punters afraid to even think of buying another human for their selfish wants, make a society that not only scorn the punters, but gives them serious punishment for robbing the prostituted of their basic human rights of safety, dignity, freedom of movement and right to life.

Tear away the demand – and build a culture that cannot even imagined why men ever invented a system where mostly women and girls are made so non-human that they were just are used as fuck-toys.

The sex work advocates will keep the focus as far away as possible from the punters, and will make sure no-one looks clearly at the management class of the sex trade.

Instead they keep the focus on the individual prostitute – either to show as some sad case who could not cope with the joys of sex work, or the happy hooker who is used to recruit others into the sex trade.

Just never look at the punters and profiteers – never see their cold cynical approach to the prostituted, that they have pre-planned what degree of violence they will use on her.

Rather pretend it is an accident, some mis-reading by the prostitute, he must be mentally sick – never see that violence and hate is the foundation of all aspects of the sex trade.

Violence is used kept the prostituted always on their toes. Violence is used to deadened her enough, that things that would have been unthinkable to her become her only reality.

Violence is not emotional, is not a flash in a pan – in the sex trade violence is often slow, calculated and always done to control the prostitute.

That is what sex work advocates refuse to speak about.

But exited women have no choice but to talk about it – for we are so sick of the bodies of the prostituted being made invisible.

Rebecca Mott is an anti-prostitution activist blogging at rmott62.wordpress.com. As an exited prostituted woman who mainly did indoors prostitution, she uses her blog to campaign for abolition of the sex trade, to inform about the realities of indoors prostitution and to explore trauma after prostitution. She works with international campaigning groups seeking abolition of prostitution and sex-trafficking, and speaks publicly to advocate abolition of prostitution, rather than merely regulating it.  She uses her blog to give other exited women advice and support, usually by private emails or face-to-face contact, and has recently founded an abolitionist campaigning group called Campaign Against the Sex Trade.

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32 Responses to “Double-Speak”

  1. Where are non-prostituted women safer indoors – doesn’t most child abuse go on inside a home, isn’t most women battered indoors, ain’t most raped inside a building – if that is the reality for non-prostituted, in what universe would the prostituted be safer indoors?

    yes, it takes extreme denial about the violence done to prostituted women, to deny that men as a sexual class, across time and place are sadistic and wish to destroy women. and it takes extreme denial about the horrors perpetrated on nonprostituted women indoors, to believe that legalizing prostitution and bringing it indoors will solve the problems of prostitution (and male violence) for women. it does solve some of the problems of it for men: the problem of the mess, as it were, including witnesses.

    thank you for this.

  2. rebecca, thanks for speaking from your hesrt even as you go through all the pain that you do. Even though your anguish is present your voice is so clear, so smart, so strong and so focused. Please do not stop talking and writing about this.

    I really like your assertion that violence against prostituted women is not a flash in the pan but an inherent aspect of the management class’ control strategy. Fear and physical abuse keep the sex class in their- our- place. You are so right.

  3. The main thing about the sex work advocates is that they spend most of their energy trying to distract from the elephant in the room – that the only reason there is prostitution is because of the mainly male demand to make other humans into sub-humans for their sexual wants and greed.

    Heck in the sex work language, punters are never called nasty words that are the hearts of most prostituted women – such as johns, scums, bastards, saddoes,

    Another part of the elephant in the room is that women who are not prostitutes know, both consciously and unconsciously, that the punters (johns, scums, bastards, and saddoes) are our grandfathers, fathers, uncles, brothers, husbands, sons, grandsons, male neighbors, male friends, male acquaintances, male politicians, male doctors, male therapists, the unknown males who we see when we are in public, and more.

    We have bought the illusion that if only we can deny the reality, we will be safe from them. We have a desire to find an indoors that is safe. We have been told that if they can “get their needs met” elsewhere, we will not need to put up with their dehumanizing porn fantasies. We know about their porn fantasies, because they bring them into our bedrooms, directly or indirectly. They bring them into our homes, our workplaces, our public spaces.

    What you point out is the lie that prostitution can be made safe. The content of prostitution is unsafety. It is clear that you will never be safe as long as prostitution is acceptable, as long as the punters are not called to account, made public, and jailed. Nor will any woman, or her grandmother, mother, aunt, sister, daughter, grandaughter, female neighbor, female friend, female acquaintance, female politician, female doctor, or female therapist or the unknown female we see when we are in public be safe. We need to give up the lie, the delusion. We need to make being a punter illegal. There is no other possible conclusion.

    Thank you for the clarifying post.

  4. Thanks everyone,

    Katier – I think it very important that many punters who violent to the prostituted, would not dream of being violent to what they would term as “real” women, for they would consider the men that are violent to the non-prostituted are sick and or disgusting. This is because many punter will and do consider the prostituted to be goods they have brought to use, not to be human.
    Although some punters spread the violence into the non-prostituted – one of the worse thing of being prostituted is knowing as the punters pour hate and violence into you, you not seen as human just holes and hands. And that many punters are doing violence that they would consider vile if done to “real” women, but of no importance when done to the prostituted. For most placed prostitutes into a box, that they don’t bring out into their real world.

  5. Thank you so much for creating and posting this. As always, Rebecca, your razor sharp explanation shreds the curtain men and their apologists are using to try to hide the truth. I am so grateful for your voice and so heartbroken at what you have had to endure to survive and tell the world what you know.

  6. “But sex work advocates buy that it is can made safer, at least safe enough to patch up the prostituted and then send then back into danger again. This is named as harm reduction, doing everything to keep the prostituted in enough working order to look good for the punter, and hopefully will smile as well.

    Kind of remind me of army hospitals in the First World War, where soldiers were patch up enough to be sent back to almost certain death or mental/ physical mutilation – sent back regardless of the mental damage they were carrying.”

    There should be medals and memorials for the young women wasted and killed in the war of the sexes. For women, there is no peace; many of our number are continually pressed to the front lines, through prostitution and abuse.

    Thank you for your brave words, Rebecca. They keep internet feminism real.

  7. Indeed the focus must never be on the men who demand an unlimited number of women and girls must be made available for them to rape and subject to sexualised torture. The idea that ‘harm reduction’ is even viable is a deliberate attempt to keep the focus off the innumerable men who consider it their innate right to purchase female human beings because that would mean the first step towards eliminating our male supremacist society.

    Criminalising and shaming males who attempt to purchase any woman or girl irrespective of whether or not she supposedly ‘chose’ to enter prostitution is the only way forward given our society is supposedly a civilised one. However, I see nothing civilised in a society wherein men still retain their right, if they so choose, to purchase women and girls as though they are disposable commodities and then inflict sadistic sexualised violence on them because these purchasers happen to be male.

    Male Supremacy continues to promote the centuries old misogynistic claim that there are only two types of women: either a woman/girl is ‘respectable’ and hence is perceived by men as ‘suitable material to purchase as a wife/servant’ or else she is a dehumanised commodity whose only reason for existence is to be men’s dehumanised sexual service stations.

    All the propaganda about the supposed safety of indoor prostitution is a deliberate strategy designed to once again invisibilise the realities of prostitution and ensure ‘respectable women and men’ do not have to concern themselves about the nasty side of prostitution. The question as always to be asked is who benefits from indoor prostitution? Men or women? The answer is of course men because what happens behind closed doors is supposedly nobody’s business but the John and the prostituted woman/women, which means of course the Johns can commit whatever violence they wish because no one will be non the wiser.

    Then too holding men accountable means challenging our male supremacist system and demanding an end to prostitution because no woman was born to be a man’s dehumanised sexual service station. So we must keep on repeating the truths like a broken record until such time as finally one day the Johns are criminalised and shamed. But at the same time we must discard the male supremacist lie that women are supposedly either ‘virgins or whores’ because until women do discard this lie prostitution will continue unabated.

  8. Thank you for this, Rebecca.

    the only reason there is prostitution is because of the mainly* male demand to make other humans into sub-humans for their sexual wants and greed.

    This point is so blatantly obvious it is mind-boggling that the general public refuses to see it. Furthermore, the male need to dehumanize and enslave women first, both prostituted and non-prostituted, and then also minority populations is the single, solitary, root cause of most human suffering throughout history.

    The perpetual existence of prostitution is irrefutable evidence of the true face of maleness. I sincerely believe that if human civilization had the chance to develop as anything other than a male supremacy – say a matriarchal or even an egalitarian society – maleness would be classified as a severe incurable mental illness only to be dealt with by life imprisonment, lobotomy, or execution.

    *The strikeout text is because any women who participate in dehumanizing others is only doing so because she learned it from men. Therefore, men are responsible for 100% of these behaviors.

  9. Katier – I think it very important that many punters who violent to the prostituted, would not dream of being violent to what they would term as “real” women, for they would consider the men that are violent to the non-prostituted are sick and or disgusting. This is because many punter will and do consider the prostituted to be goods they have brought to use, not to be human.
    Although some punters spread the violence into the non-prostituted – one of the worse thing of being prostituted is knowing as the punters pour hate and violence into you, you not seen as human just holes and hands. And that many punters are doing violence that they would consider vile if done to “real” women, but of no importance when done to the prostituted. For most placed prostitutes into a box, that they don’t bring out into their real world.

    Thank you for the clarification, Rebecca. There is a dichotomy that these men apply to women. I agree. I did not mean to imply that non-prostituted women are in anywhere near as much danger as prostitutes, nor do they get the level of degradation, cruelty and harm.

    One thing I was thinking when I read your post is that another elephant in the room is that it is the men with whom non-prostituted women interact daily, including relatives, are pouring out this hate-filled violence on other (prostituted) women. If non-prostituted women look the other way and pretend it is not the men we interact with, we are living in denial. I do not think that these men should be shielded by the women they live with and interact with. If someone can treat any woman this way, they are woman-haters. Why would any woman defend a woman hater? Why would any woman interact with a woman hater?

    Thank you for speaking out.

  10. As usual, another beautiful post, from rebecca.

    I feel that most of the left has bought into the lie that prostitution should be legalized. The johns who beat up prostitutes are assumed to be “a few bad apples,” rather than the vast, vast majority of men who purchase women. And even if that don’t apply outright physical abuse, it still takes a helluva lot of entitlement to think you can just throw money at someone and they’ll have sex with you.

    My question to all of those against the legalization position is, how do we fight it? I know we all live in different countries, but prostitution is not entirely legal in the U.S. (strip clubs, escort services, pornography is, and brothels are legal in some parts of Nevada). We need a giant movement to overthrow the sex trade!

  11. For me and other exited women, it is very important that prostitution and other aspects o the sex trade are not just placed on some theoretical line of male violence – but is separated out.
    This is because as I have said the punters and profiteers separate out the prostituted class. In many rapes and batteries done to non-prostituted – there is huge hate and violence, but the woman and or girl is still seen as human and given some right to be an individual.
    Most prostitutes are not given the right to be seen as humans, just commodities – it should more compare with rape as a war crime, or other form of mass torture – where the “victims” are robbed of individuality and are made to be disposable.
    That is why I use the language of torture, the language of the smashing of basic human rights, the language of exploitation – for many exited women find it difficult to enter the language of rape and battery.
    In the long run, I believe exited women are slowly building their own language – which is now mostly full of silences with others telling to fit into words that do not get close to our experiences. I think we are so used to being silenced and told how to think, that we remain polite as others write or speak our lives, and make us sick – we don’t how to show our anger and grief at being made continually voiceless.
    Maybe if all others were silent or a while, and give us real space and time to speak out truths without putting words on our mouths – many people, including radical feminists could learn from our knowledge and experience about what it really is to made nothing.

  12. hi rebecca

    would you like me to turn off the comments for this guest-post? i am sorry if any of the comments here (including mine) are inappropriate. let me know what you would like me to do. thank you for posting this. your voice is so important, and you are right that others (including me) could learn from your knowledge and experience, and should not put words in your mouth.

  13. This is a wonderful post, Rebecca. Thank you for sharing it and hosting this discussion about indoor prostitution. There are so many excellent points here, I don’t even know where to begin! The point you made directly above about separating the violence of prostitution from other forms of male violence is esepecially important. Of course we need to see the parallels and realize, as KatieS has pointed out, punters are men we see everyday. On the streets. At work. In out homes. But as you said in the post about prostituted women:

    Her voice is made unhearable – it is more than silenced – it is made non-existent.

    While domestic violence is silenced– and it is– the characters usually exist. They wil have a socially sanctioned and revered “relationship” with the male; they play some kind of “family role”: wife, daughter, sister, niece, mother. Even girlfriend. A prostituted woman is no one. She does not exist. She is completely invisible. If the left has it their way, prostituted women’s voices will never see the light of day. Pun intended. Happy hookers and enthusiastic sex workers are the proxies set in place to deliberately block our view of the reality of global sexual exploitation for profit. I agree that the language of war is more appropriate.

  14. Tear away the demand – and build a culture that cannot even imagined why men ever invented a system where mostly women and girls are made so non-human that they were just are used as fuck-toys.

    This is the revolution.

  15. I think the comments should stay on, but please think carefully before using too much theory and or placing experiences of being inside a continuum of male violence.. This is often used to make the voices of exited women go unheard, unless they stick to the preconceived ideas that the prostituted class are just there to be examples to other women of how male violence can be – but always framed in a way that keeps the prostituted class as sub-humans.
    I want the voices of exited women to be put forward, even when they want to push the boundaries that it just a continuum, and that men invented the prostituted class in order to have an endless supply of what they framed as non-humans to do whatever hate and violence they want to. The most important thing about this invention of the prostituted is that is the invention of whole class of women and girls who can be raped, battered and murdered, and it has for at least 3000 years been made into a non-event, for no harm is done to these non-humans who are just sexual goods.
    As Undercover Punk said the prostitute is more than invisible, she does not exist.

    Womononajourney – I think there many ways women can join the fight towards abolition. First there no quick answers, it is a long, hard and often very emotional journey – but it very important that non-prostituted women join the fight, especially as many exited women who fight so hard are doing it with the background noise of often extreme trauma. It is important to start with a big step, that is to fully back ending male demand, and at the same decrimalise the prostituted, whilst fighting for specialist exiting projects for the prostituted. It is very important to question the non-stop push to make prostitution into sex work, the push to place prostitution indoors – to question the lies that it is safer indoors. By questioning and especially by using the words of prostituted women, it does change people’s minds, or most are drowning in the propaganda of the sex trade, and so hearing the reality can bring real change. I think being lead by the voices of the prostituted class is vital.

  16. “This is because many punter will and do consider the prostituted to be goods they have brought to use, not to be human.”

    The more this is shouted out the more people will listen.

    One way to stop this is to shame punters and make it illegal for them to pay for sex. Punishable by naming in the local paper, drivers licence penalties and imprisonment. There can be no sweet talking around this issue. No way can it be made more palatable by renaming the prostitute as a sex worker. One argument regularly put out by johns is that there are other forms of work that is demeaning and dehumanising as if that makes buying sex okay. Oh and choice is another word often bandied about. These johns are the detestable and inhuman.

    I agree totally that exited women should be seen in the same way as those women who are raped as a weapon of war.

    This is an excellent post once more from you Rebecca. Keep filling in those silences.

  17. HI rmott, Is it that:
    When a non-prostituted woman is raped or battered, her outrage and pain at her mistreatment is legitimate, but a prostituted woman has no legitimate right to pain or suffering, which means that when she does complain about the way she has been treated it appears absurd, almost like a joke…

  18. I mean, it appears like a joke to men,to society… that is the silencing.. a prostitute is *complaining* about being fucked and fucked over. Incredulous.

  19. Hi Rebecca!

    I just wanted to say that I am very, very glad to see you working with us here at the HUB and hope you continue to feel that your efforts are not being wasted.

    The single most important thing I have learned from you over the years is to simply (not so simple sometimes though!) listen to the women who know.

    Again, thank you. 🙂

  20. Thanks for allowing comments to continue, Rebecca! You are very, very patient with us.

    I think what CBL said is on the right path: prostitution is framed such that prostituted women have no perceived RIGHT to complain about being treated badly. It sounds just like that classic “she asked for it” bullshit. If you are getting paid even one shiny quarter, you are receiving SOME benefit AND you consented to it, therefore any harm done to you in the process is not relevant or legitimate.

    Again, from the post:

    It is a genocide of the prostituted made invisible by replacing the goods.

    In addition to entirely mis-framing the issue, continuous replacement is another very effective technique for invisibilizing the victims of prostitution.

  21. Yes, thank you, Rebecca. I’ll echo what Sargassosea said–I need to listen to the women who know, though unlike her, I’m at the beginning.

  22. speaking of framing and reframing the issue i just wrote about “framing the issues” over at my place. heres a link:

    http://factcheckme.wordpress.com/2011/05/22/dood-centric-problem-solving/

    the link is relevant to the issue of “debate” strategy and framing the issues as they affect us, instead of accpeting mens framing of the issues that only affect them as the perpetrators. its not about prostitution, but about strategy in general.

  23. Thanks again for taking on board what I trying to say. I am so used to my words about the realities of prostitution be talked over or through, that I can over-react when I get defensive. I find so much of the conversation round prostitution is placed in the safe detached arena of academia, which to be honest tends to get many exited women’s backs up, for unless they fit the stereotype victim role, the real conditions are rarely mention. It keep the level of great generalisations – but very rarely allow the human voices of exited women. Sometimes exited women are given permission – but usually one at a time – the token exited woman who is somehow meant to stand for all prostituted women and girls. This is insulting and to be very honest exhausting.
    What angers me and other exited women is that many of us all struggling every day to campaign and educate about the realities of prostitution – and we are often leading the movement for abolition. But there seem to be no interest to see us as contacted to each other work, that we are contacted on a national and international scale – that we do the work to beyond our narrow experiences and contact with many aspects of prostitution and the sex trade we did not know. That is normally dismiss by always be used as the token “out-spoken” exited woman. But worse, or many feminists and others on the left they prefer to turn to academics or someone who may be published, then have messy exited women to speak about prostitution.
    I hope I have not offended or piss anyone off – but I am very defensive about this work.

  24. Rebecca, I have nothing but the highest awe and respect for your work. I do not think you have been defensive, rather incredibly patient in restating the hidden reality of prostituted women. As a member of the Hub, I want you to feel safe here. Your emotional safety is more important than any community discussion and (I’m pretty sure) that’s why FCM checked in with you, sister. We honor you.

  25. what UP said. rebecca, thank you for writing and for your patience.

  26. The establishment’s way of silencing is to divide and conquer.

  27. Maggie – i am not sure what you mean – though personally I think that phrase “divide and conquer” is often used by feminists to say it all just one big continuum, and different groups of oppressed should even think about separating out their experiences and ways of seeing their own oppression.
    This is used on women who speak out the differences. My wanting the voices of the prostituted to be in the foreground, and for it to be separated from other aspect of male violence – is very important for it is the voices of the invisible and most silenced.
    Sorry i finding very hard to write – for I find the divide and conquer expression deeply hurtful and utterly silencing. It is an expression telling the prostituted to get back into their box, and not be so loud about the hell they have known. We should speak out to loudly that the violence done us was organised, part of an institution that has for over 3000 years be all about making women and girls sub-humans to be destroyed. We should not be so loud and awkward by pointing by saying it just a continuum, other women are making the structural violence invisible, and it becomes a non-crime.
    I try not to be angry – but sometimes feminists silence the prostituted class as well.

  28. Not much to add to most of what has been said, but to repeat – thank you Rebecca for speaking out as you do.

  29. I think KatieS made a valid point that all women have to be around these men who do awful things to the prostituted class BUT you are right Rebecca, johns have to make a separation between womyn they can do anything to and womyn they actually care about.

    As non-prostituted women, we benefit from having a prostituted class because if the johns force the womyn they consider “dirty” to perform the sex acts they would not have their wives or gfs do. In fact, this has been an explicit reason given by some military establishments to provide men with prostituted women; if they don’t take out their aggression on a certain group of women, they’ll be likely to take it out on any.

    I still wouldn’t want to be around men who visit prostituted women though.

    Please let me know if I got anything wrong, Rebecca.

    xo, womononajourney

  30. You are right Womomonajourney. I would say that for many of the prostituted class, punters do worse than dirty things to them – no the prostituted class have always be use for men to do sadistic sexual, mental and physical experiments. I would much of what is done to the prostituted class is seeing how far you push the human body, in horrific porn fantasies – but trying not to kill the prostitute in order to use her over and over an over. That is how the huge profit is made – it is very cold, and design on the prostituted being disposable goods. This is not new, this is the total history of prostitution, maybe since the first caveman discover he could do any sexual violence and it will nothing if he give her goods after. I believe that the prostituted class have always protested against this hate – but always their voices have been silenced – and the sex trade has always re-written to say that prostitutes are just designed that way or are happy inside the sex trade. I always believe that the prostituted class have fought for abolition – we are wanting for the rest if society to catch up with us.

  31. I am also a survivor. I was a prostituted woman even though no pimp owned me, the patriarchy did. There is no safe space for me online. The pro-slavery folk won’t allow me to tell my story or put forth my position.

    They stalk me everywhere. There is no place I can speak freely without being told I have mental problems or when they outright diagnose me.

    They try to isolate me from the radical feminist community. They’ve taken to following me on twitter to put forth their youtube videos of me, over 500 now.

    I am never left alone by these pro-slavery people. When I get angry and scream back, they cut and paste my words, quote mine me, and then paint me as some sick and twisted, racist, transphobic, homophobic et al. radical feminist that’s not to be taken seriously.

    None of my experiences as a prostitute are valid. Instead of addressing my arguments they attack me personally and then wonder why I swear back at them once in a while.

    I’ve not been free of them for an entire year.

    I thought leaving the industry would afford me safety. It hasn’t. I’m viciously attacked by those who want to stifle my truth, and the truth of other women and girls who have been receptacles of men.

    I crave that safe spot but I know I must continue to fight.

    Thank you R.

    Diana

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